A client question I've heard a number of times over the years: "Why do I have to keep revisiting difficult scenes in my past?" "I’m in a tears every time – is it really helping? Why do I have to keep going back there? Can’t I just not think about it and move on?” I completely get it. It ... [ Read More ]
The Best Way to Love Someone
I found this quote again in my quote file. I'm a collector (of quotes, information, courses, books, articles....) - can you identify? I usually find the most useful bits jump out at exactly the right time. "I find the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead, help them ... [ Read More ]
Healing our Hearts
Last time I wrote about the Final Trip in the Car, one of the hardest things we'd ever had to do. We were so relieved and delighted to have received the reminder about the perfect place to heal some of our grief about our beloved boy. The Botanical Gardens welcomes us with its spring magnificence. ... [ Read More ]
The Benefits of Self-Compassion
Most of us find it extremely hard to be kind and compassionate towards ourselves. Some believe that we'll get lazy or complacent if we're too "soft" on ourselves, other think it's somehow "selfish" or arrogant. There are unkind voices in our heads that tell us the harshest, most unkind things about ... [ Read More ]
What’s Hot Chocolate have to do with Relationships?
Written by Christopher Nevill. This short story is not original to me and what I have done is fiddled with it a bit to illustrate a point about our relationships. Look carefully at your relationship. Are you drinking the chocolate the other person has to offer or are you complaining about the way ... [ Read More ]