Last year I wrote an article about choosing my word for 2020. Some friends and colleagues had lovely contributions about how they choose or how the word chooses them. My word for 2020 was ‘Ease’… chosen in January 2020, way before I knew what “the year of the pandemic” was going to hold for ... [ Read More ]
Goals in Uncertain Times
"How can I possibly have goals in these uncertain times?" This question has come up in a number of client sessions. I was right there with them and have come to some conclusions. Maybe it helps you if you've been sitting with this question. My own reluctance Usually, at the end of each year, I do ... [ Read More ]
How to Measure whether EFT works
"EFT does not work. I still have my issue!" This is a cry I’ve heard from many people (including clients) who try EFT for a complex issue. Here’s an example. Susan has had panic attacks for a few years. Then she discovers EFT and tries it herself. She realises she doesn’t quite know how to ... [ Read More ]
World Kindness Day, 13 November 2020
World Kindness Day is celebrated every year on 13 November. And this unbelievably strange year, it also falls on a Friday. Friday 13 November, 2020. I think the Universe has a sense of humour! Kindness is one of my values I love thinking about what words really mean. The dictionary says simply ... [ Read More ]
Reacting from Emotion rather than from Logic
A few days ago, right in front of my eyes, I saw a perfect example of how our emotional reactions (not logic) lead to our actions – especially in times of stress. We went for our daily walk. It was breezy. Someone close to me had an unexpected sneeze. It was loud and completely ... [ Read More ]
How Emotional Baggage Works
Imagine wearing a big backpack. Every time we felt an emotion and ignored, denied, or suppressed it, it’s like putting the emotion in that backpack, and carrying it with us. It’s not truly gone, even though we think we’ve successfully ‘dealt’ with it. We’re still carrying it with us. Every ... [ Read More ]
How to co-ordinate phrases with tapping for effective EFT
A question that comes up often when people start learning about EFT is this: "I attended a short workshop (2-3 hours) and it looked easy when the workshop host lead it. Now I want to tap for my own issue, but I still don’t know how to co-ordinate the phrases with the tapping. Even though I ... [ Read More ]
Uncertainty and the Strange New World we Live in
I’ve spoken to many friends, clients and others over the past few months about the massive amounts of uncertainty we’re facing. It seems that for so many of us, big decisions we would have made had it not been for the pandemic, have been put on hold. I’ve heard ... [ Read More ]
EFT Borrowing Benefits
If you don’t know what the marvelous method of EFT (tapping) is, start by finding out what it EFT is here. Many people do not know that tapping along with others’ emotional issues, can help reduce their own. It’s called “Borrowing Benefits” with EFT. I’ve heard so many times from clients “I ... [ Read More ]
Tapping on the ‘negative’ thing
“When we tap (EFT), why do we use words about the thing we don’t want, instead of what we DO want? It feels like it reinforces my fear!” This is a great question and I hear it often. When we use EFT tapping, we tune in to a problem we experience while we tap on specific stress-relief points on ... [ Read More ]