If you're an introvert, that word might want to make you turn around right now and run for the closest hills. I get it. For years, I was a "closet business owner". Yes, I had a business. Because I never talked about, so few people knew. (Ahem, I have to wonder...."Is it really a business if ... [ Read More ]
Buried feelings never die
It is fascinating to me how many people think we can "forget" the past and move on by just saying the words - "I'm moving on now." I am in contact daily with people who have tried that.... and years or months later, their "forgotten" past comes back to bite them. How does it show ... [ Read More ]
The Relief of Naming a Problem in a Safe Space
In the past few weeks I’ve worked with several private clients who all expressed this. Their words were something like: “What a relief to ADMIT this!” “It’s so good to just NAME it!” “I’m finally acknowledging and accepting that this is how this situation is…. “ Followed by a huge sigh of relief ... [ Read More ]
The difference between being highly sensitive, and being highly reactive to triggers
If you’re reading this article, I’m guessing that you are someone who identifies with having a sensitive nervous system. Maybe you’re an HSP or Empath. And perhaps you feel that it’s very hard to be in the world with all it’s challenges, when one is this sensitive. I get it! I’m one too. For ... [ Read More ]
Self-Care and our Genes
Every time we think a thought, it usually leads to one or more emotions. Sometimes we’re aware of those emotions, other times not. Some of us are well practiced in suppressing emotions. We learn to do this at an early age, because Mom or Dad told us to stop crying, stop being angry, or sit quietly ... [ Read More ]
Survival Mechanisms
Dr Gabor Mate is a medical practitioner who does excellent, enlightening work in the field of disease and addictions. His main point is that every addiction and serious disease starts as a result of trauma and feeling isolated. His insightful quote is what I find in my work too. Every single ... [ Read More ]
Self-Care isn’t just a holiday or a massage
“I can’t afford self-care. I have no time for myself and I’m on a budget.“ I hear the misconception all around me. That self-care necessarily entails “expensive” or “lots of time” - like a holiday in the Bahamas. It can be those things, yes. And, that’s nowhere near what the daily ... [ Read More ]
Lessons from Pushing Past my Energy Reserves
Have you pushed yourself to run on an empty tank? What was the impact? I did that recently and learnt some valuable lessons. I don’t have it all figured out fully. I’m still learning how to best care for myself as an introvert (who is also an HSP and Empath). I trust there’s something here that you ... [ Read More ]
Permission for Self-Care
Do you struggle with the idea of doing something for yourself? Maybe even more than that: do you struggle to give yourself permission to rest? Really truly rest – doing nothing? Messages about Rest Most of us heard messages in childhood about ourselves and about rest, that are not helpful for a ... [ Read More ]
Common Fears about Starting a Business
I love how I keep being delighted and surprised in my work. Take for instance the example of my client Daffodil. (That’s an arbitrary name I gave her for this story – and why not a beautiful flower that shows its lovely self in Spring, the season of renewal? I have had many beautiful souls with ... [ Read More ]