I’m so glad you landed here.
A short summary of what I bring
I’m an HSP, Empath and sensitive introvert. I used to be painfully shy. I’ve experienced big, painful challenges, and I’ve had big goals that scared me. In the past 13 years I’ve built an online coaching/healing business, learnt to teach workshops, hosted podcasts and a Telesummit, and present live video’s on Facebook. I’ve had to step WAY out of my comfort zone for each of those. I know how much courage all this takes, especially when you’re a sensitive introvert. We love to stay IN our comfort zone, don’t we, where we don’t get overwhelmed by the stress and adrenaline.
If you have a dream and feel sick (from anxiety) when you think about it, I know what that’s like. If you’re tired of being blamed for being “too sensitive” and want to love yourself just as you are, and learn tools to navigate anxiety and stress, I can help. If you’re going through a crisis and just don’t know how to make sense of it all anymore, or how you’ll ever love yourself again, I can take your hand and help you to feel calm, and safe again. I’ve been there, multiple times.
Of course, personal experience is great…. and that’s not all I bring. As an introvert, I really don’t like tooting my horn. Yet I need to let you know you’re in safe hands with me. Here are a few skills I bring to the table:
I’m an Advanced EFT Practitioner and I was an EFT International EFT Trainer for a while. I’m embarking on refreshing my Trainership again. I’m a PSYCH-K Advanced Practitioner, and I use NLP, Coaching, Quantum-Touch and Reiki. I am a GallupStrengths coach and LOVE helping my clients to fall in love with their unique strengths. I’m in training to become a Fall in Love with Presenting Trainer, and for a while I did Tissue Salts Facial Analysis.
I’m the author of 2 books. I’m an Empath and an HSP, with loads of compassion, empathy and kindness. I’ve also had to learn strong yet kind boundaries (because I used to feel responsibility for the whole wide world), and of course, I teach about self-care in my work.
So let’s check in with you now….
Here’s what I suspect I know about you, if you landed on this page:
You’re an introvert and sensitive soul (an HSP or Empath) and….
- You’re labeled as “too sensitive” and it eats away at your self-esteem when people judge you for that
- You think something is wrong with you for being sensitive
- You know anxiety, perhaps you’re shy, or suffer from social anxiety, and dread showing up as “yourself”. It feels like you have to be someone else to please people
- You take on responsibility for others and want to fix or heal them (or “the world”) because it looks like no-one else is going to do it
- You might be at a crisis spot in your career, relationship or health
- You don’t know the way forward, because you have so many conflicting emotions
- You might feel like you can’t trust yourself
- Maybe this crisis has rocked your world to such an extent that you’ve lost your feeling of self-worth or self-love
- You would love a boost in your confidence to handle what’s on your plate, and to make decisions that are right for YOU
- You have a dream to make a difference… yet you get stopped by your fears (aren’t they so annoying?)
- You procrastinate and even talk yourself out of it
- You’re DONE with the fears… and you’re still scared
- Your confidence might need a boost and you want to see yourself in a positive light… and the voice in your head might be saying “Who do you think you are?“
How did I get here to talk about this?
The short answer – I got here, the long windy way.
I’ve had multiple huge crises in my life. Each one felt catastrophic and like life as I knew it, was ending at the time.
Marriage Twists and Turns
When my first marriage ended after 5.5 years, I was devastated, ashamed and aghast. How did that happen? It was supposed to be forever! I grew up in a good home with firm values – this wasn’t supposed to happen to me.
I married again. When the second marriage was on the rocks, I was besides myself. How could this happen again??
I didn’t take that decision lightly. I realised it was impossible for me to get calm clarity while living together, so I moved out to get distance. To tell the truth, probably right from the moment I moved out, I knew I couldn’t go back. But so many fears and concerns held me from speaking my own truth much sooner. Especially the one that I was going to hurt someone very deeply. It took me a full 4 months to voice my decision. I can remember the day I had to break the news like yesterday. The agony, the anxiety, the fear that (even though I knew deep in my heart it was right) it was the wrong thing to do. What if I had to live with horrible regret after this?
Thankfully, I’m now married for a third time (some people think I’m crazy!) – very happily for the past 14 years! Our love, and the relationship gets stronger each day. Absolutely, we’ve had our ups and downs, like any normal relationship. I don’t think anyone should stay in an unhappy place forever ‘because they once chose it’. We all have CHOICE and we’re allowed to change direction when there is new information available to us.
It’s vitally important to take care of the unconscious patterns and hurts from the past, so we don’t carry them into our future. Sometimes, all it takes to get a relationship back on track, is to find the old ‘patterns’ we have, that keep making us behave in the same old ineffective way. A relationship crisis doesn’t have to mean it’s over.
Career Twists and Turns
I also have much personal experience with career crises and decisions. I started as a musician, with a degree in music. My 10 year career in music came to an end when I couldn’t bear the environment I was working in, any longer. I was in the Military Band of the SA Army for 5 years and the realization dawned on me that I couldn’t survive their anymore. I hated every minute of the day – but what would I do instead? I needed an income and couldn’t afford another 4 -year degree!
That led to months of searching for an applicable direction and I ended up doing a 4 month computer programming course. Bliss – I found a new job immediately and worked in a fast-paced, stressful environment for another 7 years. I LOVED learning the new technology, and alas… after 6 years, my heart wasn’t in it anymore. I didn’t know it at the time, but some of my strengths were not getting the chance to work on a daily basis.
Another huge change in direction later, and here I am now, in a career I absolutely love and adore for the past 13 years. Where I work with the emotional world of my clients, what stressful events mean(t) to them, patterns they have, wounds from the past that still influence them in a limiting way, choosing a new direction, and working towards that step by step.
This might’ve been my biggest ‘out of my comfort zone’ step ever! We moved to London (UK) in October 2017. The stress of leaving everything I knew behind, was beyond what I could imagine. Yet, here I am, alive and well to share the story. If you’re in a place of leaving ALL you know behind, and are terrified, I truly get that.
Not a day goes by that I’m not grateful for all the meandering it took for me to arrive exactly here, in this spot.
Your Next Step
Nothing changes when we don’t take action, right? Here’re a few options so you can take one baby step today.
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