Are you in introvert or extrovert? Does spending a day talking to people (whether 1-1 or in a group) energize you or drain you? As I’m sitting here writing (it’s the middle of the day, July 2016), I feel sleepy, slightly brain-dead and my body just feels like finding the nearest bed, collapsing ... [ Read More ]
34 CliftonStrengths Reactions to COVID-19
My dear friend and CliftonStrengths mentor, Dries Lombaard, has written a brilliant post. He called it "A light-hearted (positive) look at the 34 CliftonStrengths thinking patterns in reaction to COVID-19". I asked him for permission to publish it here. In my experience, it's valuable to ... [ Read More ]
Blinks: A Way that I get to Read more Books
I and many of the clients I work with, have the GallupStrengths of “Learner” and/or “Input”. That means: we love learning, are eternally curious and love gathering information (and books)…. And we want to read allllllll the books about the topics that interest us. Does that feel familiar to ... [ Read More ]
Self-Care isn’t just a holiday or a massage
“I can’t afford self-care. I have no time for myself and I’m on a budget.“ I hear the misconception all around me. That self-care necessarily entails “expensive” or “lots of time” - like a holiday in the Bahamas. It can be those things, yes. And, that’s nowhere near what the daily ... [ Read More ]
Do you know the SIGNs of your Strengths?
We’re taught in so many places that there’s something wrong with us. We get this message from a very early age through parents and other adults. Later on, we learn that we need to improve, develop, grow, stretch …. And while that’s true, we don’t hear the message that there’s already a lot RIGHT ... [ Read More ]
Pain is just a symptom
I’ve had some neck pain in the past few weeks. I felt it quite high up in my neck as I lowered my head forward. I kept trying to release the pain and discomfort there, by feeling for knots or spasms in my neck. It didn’t seem to work. Frustrating! I asked my husband to help me since I wasn’t ... [ Read More ]
Procrastination saved her from awful disappointment
Have you ever found yourself procrastinating on a project that is important to you, and then beat up on yourself for not doing it? With self-talk like “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just start? I’m such a [loser/lost case/procrastinator/fill in your own] and my [mother/father/teacher] was right ... [ Read More ]
How to Lose your Confidence and Start Hating your Career
Recently I’ve been reminded by three separate people, that staying in a career that requires you to use your weaknesses, or simply not being able to use your strengths, can lead to depression and a serious loss of confidence. The first example (let’s call him David) was a super confident exercise ... [ Read More ]
I just can’t say no!
How many times have you heard yourself say this? And I bet you wish you could say that little word. To those requests that take your time, that you don't really feel like doing but you say 'yes' to anyway. How much do you enjoy those activities you agree to with such reluctance? How much ... [ Read More ]
How to get over feeling that something is wrong with you as an introvert
I've heard this question so often from clients and introverts in online forums. "Why do I feel so different? It feels like something is wrong with me." Here's a simple truth - you ARE different. AND - there's nothing wrong with you! Why do we come to believe something is wrong with us? There ... [ Read More ]