“I can’t afford self-care. I have no time for myself and I’m on a budget.“ I hear the misconception all around me. That self-care necessarily entails “expensive” or “lots of time” - like a holiday in the Bahamas. It can be those things, yes. And, that’s nowhere near what the daily ... [ Read More ]
Do you know the SIGNs of your Strengths?
We’re taught in so many places that there’s something wrong with us. We get this message from a very early age through parents and other adults. Later on, we learn that we need to improve, develop, grow, stretch …. And while that’s true, we don’t hear the message that there’s already a lot RIGHT ... [ Read More ]
Pain is just a symptom
I’ve had some neck pain in the past few weeks. I felt it quite high up in my neck as I lowered my head forward. I kept trying to release the pain and discomfort there, by feeling for knots or spasms in my neck. It didn’t seem to work. Frustrating! I asked my husband to help me since I wasn’t ... [ Read More ]
Procrastination saved her from awful disappointment
Have you ever found yourself procrastinating on a project that is important to you, and then beat up on yourself for not doing it? With self-talk like “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just start? I’m such a [loser/lost case/procrastinator/fill in your own] and my [mother/father/teacher] was right ... [ Read More ]
How to Lose your Confidence and Start Hating your Career
Recently I’ve been reminded by three separate people, that staying in a career that requires you to use your weaknesses, or simply not being able to use your strengths, can lead to depression and a serious loss of confidence. The first example (let’s call him David) was a super confident exercise ... [ Read More ]
I just can’t say no!
How many times have you heard yourself say this? And I bet you wish you could say that little word. To those requests that take your time, that you don't really feel like doing but you say 'yes' to anyway. How much do you enjoy those activities you agree to with such reluctance? How much ... [ Read More ]
How to get over feeling that something is wrong with you as an introvert
I've heard this question so often from clients and introverts in online forums. "Why do I feel so different? It feels like something is wrong with me." Here's a simple truth - you ARE different. AND - there's nothing wrong with you! Why do we come to believe something is wrong with us? There ... [ Read More ]
Procrastination – Just Push Through It!
Have you also heard people say that? They say things like "If you’ve set a goal (or want to be successful), you will HAVE to do some things you don't like. So get over reluctance and just DO IT. Push through the resistance." How do you feel when someone tells you that? What happens in your body, ... [ Read More ]
Doing it PERFECTLY
I know I’ve written about this subject before but it keeps coming back to me. It’s probably because I keep struggling with it myself, and because I keep gaining more insights and more examples to illustrate the folly. The folly? Thinking that I need to know EXACTLY how to do something PERFECTLY ... [ Read More ]
Three Steps to Self-Care that will Nurture your Talents
What self-care practices do you follow? Are they regular? Do you go through phases of taking care of yourself, and then a few bits of resentment when you suddenly realise that you’ve left yourself at the back of the priority queue again? Or - are you possible thinking “Self-Care?? What’s that? ... [ Read More ]