Imagine wearing a big backpack. Every time we felt an emotion and ignored, denied, or suppressed it, it’s like putting the emotion in that backpack, and carrying it with us. It’s not truly gone, even though we think we’ve successfully ‘dealt’ with it. We’re still carrying it with us. Every ... [ Read More ]
Tapping on the ‘negative’ thing
“When we tap (EFT), why do we use words about the thing we don’t want, instead of what we DO want? It feels like it reinforces my fear!” This is a great question and I hear it often. When we use EFT tapping, we tune in to a problem we experience while we tap on specific stress-relief points on ... [ Read More ]
I don’t know what to say when I tap
"I don't know what to say when I tap!" I’ve been an EFT practitioner for 14 years, and hear this from people all the time. Then they search for the perfect EFT tapping script online that will help them to tap for their issue. It may not work, for good reasons. I’d love to clear up a few possible ... [ Read More ]
If you’re still in tears over the past
A client question I've heard a number of times over the years: "Why do I have to keep revisiting difficult scenes in my past?" "I’m in a tears every time – is it really helping? Why do I have to keep going back there? Can’t I just not think about it and move on?” I completely get it. It ... [ Read More ]
Buried feelings never die
It is fascinating to me how many people think we can "forget" the past and move on by just saying the words - "I'm moving on now." I am in contact daily with people who have tried that.... and years or months later, their "forgotten" past comes back to bite them. How does it show ... [ Read More ]
The Relief of Naming a Problem in a Safe Space
In the past few weeks I’ve worked with several private clients who all expressed this. Their words were something like: “What a relief to ADMIT this!” “It’s so good to just NAME it!” “I’m finally acknowledging and accepting that this is how this situation is…. “ Followed by a huge sigh of relief ... [ Read More ]
Someone might get angry!
Fear of conflict goes deep for many of us, especially for sensitive introverts. Imagine a situation where you did experience conflict. It might have been with a boss, a critical colleague or teacher, a parent, a friend, an intimate partner. Notice that with all of these, at least one other person ... [ Read More ]
Performance Anxiety
Last week I went to an organ recital in Christ Church, Spitalfields. It was the largest organ in the UK for about 100 years. The hour-long performance was a very special experience for me - I was a musician for many years before I made a radical change to computer programming, and then 12 years ... [ Read More ]
Journey to Forgiving an Alcoholic Father
Lovingly shared by Michele Mullins, 52. I would like to share my personal story of what I experienced at the Level 3 EFT workshop I attended in September 2010. Michele's Background My story should begin with a brief setting the stage of where I come from. I grew up with a reasonably happy ... [ Read More ]
The Personal Peace Procedure
To most of us, peace on earth sounds unrealistic. How is it possible to have peace when there's so much war, crime, injustice, violence, accidents, and disasters happening all around us? How can we possibly have peace when people are starving and kids are dying of hunger and adults of AIDS? When ... [ Read More ]