Are you in introvert or extrovert? Does spending a day talking to people (whether 1-1 or in a group) energize you or drain you? As I’m sitting here writing (it’s the middle of the day, July 2016), I feel sleepy, slightly brain-dead and my body just feels like finding the nearest bed, collapsing ... [ Read More ]
Do you have a “Word” for 2020?
I heard about this concept around 2015, when I was working with a dear mentor in the US, Paul Zelizer. Up to then I was very familiar with choosing goals for the upcoming year — yet just “one word” was new to me. I didn’t get into it for another year or so and the first word I chose to really get ... [ Read More ]
Visibility Will Lead to Loneliness
If you’re a sensitive introvert with a small business, you might know the conundrum… “I want a successful business. BUT. It means I’ll probably need to be more visible (and my coach is telling me that). AND. I don’t want to!“ Does that sound familiar? I am intimately acquainted with this inner ... [ Read More ]
Visibility – What’s your Reaction to this word?
If you're an introvert, that word might want to make you turn around right now and run for the closest hills. I get it. For years, I was a "closet business owner". Yes, I had a business. Because I never talked about, so few people knew. (Ahem, I have to wonder...."Is it really a business if ... [ Read More ]
Lessons from Pushing Past my Energy Reserves
Have you pushed yourself to run on an empty tank? What was the impact? I did that recently and learnt some valuable lessons. I don’t have it all figured out fully. I’m still learning how to best care for myself as an introvert (who is also an HSP and Empath). I trust there’s something here that you ... [ Read More ]
Permission for Self-Care
Do you struggle with the idea of doing something for yourself? Maybe even more than that: do you struggle to give yourself permission to rest? Really truly rest – doing nothing? Messages about Rest Most of us heard messages in childhood about ourselves and about rest, that are not helpful for a ... [ Read More ]
Pressure to Change Quickly…. vs Consistent Small Steps
As a coach for introverts and sensitive people, I'm guessing that if you are one, the "super-hero super-fast" picture to the left might not appeal to you. Introverts are more inclined to go for slow, steady, careful action and not have to show up as super heroes. (If your palms are sweating - ... [ Read More ]
Performance Anxiety
Last week I went to an organ recital in Christ Church, Spitalfields. It was the largest organ in the UK for about 100 years. The hour-long performance was a very special experience for me - I was a musician for many years before I made a radical change to computer programming, and then 12 years ... [ Read More ]
Introvert Tips to Thrive during Busy Times
Recently I made the longest and furthest trip ever without my husband, and the first back to South Africa since we moved to London, from South Africa. It was an incredibly packed 2 weeks with business to finish off (banks, mobile contracts, dentists, hairdresser), seeing friends and colleagues, and ... [ Read More ]
Tall Poppy Syndrome and the Fear of Judgment
This past week I wrote about Tall Poppy Syndrome on my Facebook Page, and it had some surprising reactions. I thought to share my thoughts here too, in case it meant something to you. Are you familiar with "Tall Poppy Syndrome"? It's something like - someone in your community stands out and ... [ Read More ]