If you're an introvert, that word might want to make you turn around right now and run for the closest hills. I get it. For years, I was a "closet business owner". Yes, I had a business. Because I never talked about, so few people knew. (Ahem, I have to wonder...."Is it really a business if ... [ Read More ]
Buried feelings never die
It is fascinating to me how many people think we can "forget" the past and move on by just saying the words - "I'm moving on now." I am in contact daily with people who have tried that.... and years or months later, their "forgotten" past comes back to bite them. How does it show ... [ Read More ]
The Relief of Naming a Problem in a Safe Space
In the past few weeks I’ve worked with several private clients who all expressed this. Their words were something like: “What a relief to ADMIT this!” “It’s so good to just NAME it!” “I’m finally acknowledging and accepting that this is how this situation is…. “ Followed by a huge sigh of relief ... [ Read More ]
Someone might get angry!
Fear of conflict goes deep for many of us, especially for sensitive introverts. Imagine a situation where you did experience conflict. It might have been with a boss, a critical colleague or teacher, a parent, a friend, an intimate partner. Notice that with all of these, at least one other person ... [ Read More ]
Performance Anxiety
Last week I went to an organ recital in Christ Church, Spitalfields. It was the largest organ in the UK for about 100 years. The hour-long performance was a very special experience for me - I was a musician for many years before I made a radical change to computer programming, and then 12 years ... [ Read More ]
Journey to Forgiving an Alcoholic Father
Lovingly shared by Michele Mullins, 52. I would like to share my personal story of what I experienced at the Level 3 EFT workshop I attended in September 2010. Michele's Background My story should begin with a brief setting the stage of where I come from. I grew up with a reasonably happy ... [ Read More ]
The Personal Peace Procedure
To most of us, peace on earth sounds like unrealistic and unattainable pie in the sky! How is it possible to have peace when there's so much war, crime, injustice, violence, accidents and disasters happening all around us? How can we possibly have peace when people are starving and kids are dying of ... [ Read More ]
Tall Poppy Syndrome and the Fear of Judgment
This past week I wrote about Tall Poppy Syndrome on my Facebook Page, and it had some surprising reactions. I thought to share my thoughts here too, in case it meant something to you. Are you familiar with "Tall Poppy Syndrome"? It's something like - someone in your community stands out and ... [ Read More ]
“Conflict!” – What’s your reaction?
I’ve just returned from attending an incredible workshop in CT, presented by my friend Bennie Naude. The workshop taught me how to “Fall in Love with Presenting” and I can’t even begin to describe all the learnings from it. (He's hosting another in November in Cape Town, Knysna and London. If you ... [ Read More ]
Three surprising reasons why willpower is ineffective… and what to do instead
A few mornings ago I had a deep conversation with an older lady dear to me. They were staying with us for a few days. We started by talking about how she wants to change her behaviour.... she KNOWS she “shouldn't” get angry and shout, and yet, she does. Before she can help it, or think about ... [ Read More ]