Fear of conflict goes deep for many of us, especially for sensitive introverts. Imagine a situation where you did experience conflict. It might have been with a boss, a critical colleague or teacher, a parent, a friend, an intimate partner. Notice that with all of these, at least one other person ... [ Read More ]
Performance Anxiety
Last week I went to an organ recital in Christ Church, Spitalfields. It was the largest organ in the UK for about 100 years. The hour-long performance was a very special experience for me - I was a musician for many years before I made a radical change to computer programming, and then 12 years ... [ Read More ]
Journey to Forgiving an Alcoholic Father
Lovingly shared by Michele Mullins, 52. I would like to share my personal story of what I experienced at the Level 3 EFT workshop I attended in September 2010. Michele's Background My story should begin with a brief setting the stage of where I come from. I grew up with a reasonably happy ... [ Read More ]
The Personal Peace Procedure
To most of us, peace on earth sounds like unrealistic and unattainable pie in the sky! How is it possible to have peace when there's so much war, crime, injustice, violence, accidents and disasters happening all around us? How can we possibly have peace when people are starving and kids are dying of ... [ Read More ]
Tall Poppy Syndrome and the Fear of Judgment
This past week I wrote about Tall Poppy Syndrome on my Facebook Page, and it had some surprising reactions. I thought to share my thoughts here too, in case it meant something to you. Are you familiar with "Tall Poppy Syndrome"? It's something like - someone in your community stands out and ... [ Read More ]
“Conflict!” – What’s your reaction?
I’ve just returned from attending an incredible workshop in CT, presented by my friend Bennie Naude. The workshop taught me how to “Fall in Love with Presenting” and I can’t even begin to describe all the learnings from it. (He's hosting another in November in Cape Town, Knysna and London. If you ... [ Read More ]
Three surprising reasons why willpower is ineffective… and what to do instead
A few mornings ago I had a deep conversation with an older lady dear to me. They were staying with us for a few days. We started by talking about how she wants to change her behaviour.... she KNOWS she “shouldn't” get angry and shout, and yet, she does. Before she can help it, or think about ... [ Read More ]
Out of Fear Into Love
Do the same problems keep cropping up in your life? Have you tried to make changes but then slipped back into old ways of being that keep you stuck and unhappy? If you answered yes to either, listen to today's interview. There will be some answers and helpful tips for you. I'm an avid traveler - ... [ Read More ]
How to get over feeling that something is wrong with you as an introvert
I've heard this question so often from clients and introverts in online forums. "Why do I feel so different? It feels like something is wrong with me." Here's a simple truth - you ARE different. AND - there's nothing wrong with you! Why do we come to believe something is wrong with us? There ... [ Read More ]
The surprising benefits of changing one thing
Have you ever doubted your progress in the past? Let’s say you’re making changes in your close relationships or career and it feels hard. You might think “This is TOO difficult; I’m not making any progress so I’ll go back to the way I used to be!” I want to encourage you today and mention that ... [ Read More ]