Blog overview
Do you know the SIGNs of your Strengths?
We’re taught in so many places that there’s something wrong with us. We get this message from a very early age through parents and other adults. Later on, we learn that we need to improve, develop, grow, stretch …. And while that’s true, we don’t hear the message that...
Celebrate your wins!
Me: “How did it go with your xyz goal this past week?” Client: “Oh I’m so excited – I DID it! It’s complete and I’m so relieved!!” Me: “EXCELLENT! Now – how are you going to celebrate?” Client: “Huh? I was supposed to do it - why should I celebrate?!” How often do...
Someone might get angry!
Fear of conflict goes deep for many of us, especially for sensitive introverts. Imagine a situation where you did experience conflict. It might have been with a boss, a critical colleague or teacher, a parent, a friend, an intimate partner. Notice that with all of...
Performance Anxiety
Last week I went to an organ recital in Christ Church, Spitalfields. It was the largest organ in the UK for about 100 years. The hour-long performance was a very special experience for me - I was a musician for many years before I made a radical change to computer...
Introvert Tips to Thrive during Busy Times
Recently I made the longest and furthest trip ever without my husband, and the first back to South Africa since we moved to London, from South Africa. It was an incredibly packed 2 weeks with business to finish off (banks, mobile contracts, dentists, hairdresser),...
Where is home?
Moving countries is really quite a strange thing... I've just returned from 2 weeks in SA (my old country) and am now back in London (my new country). Many friends in South Africa asked me "Which feels like home now?" It's a hard one to answer. Mostly I replied "I...
Visibility for Introverts: A Conversation with George Kao, Authentic Business Coach
Since 2009, George Kao has been helping Coaches, Consultants, Counselors and Healers to grow their audience through authentic online marketing. He teaches people how to grow their audience using social media, webinars, online courses, written posts, video's and books....
Journey to Forgiving an Alcoholic Father
Lovingly shared by Michele Mullins, 52. I would like to share my personal story of what I experienced at the Level 3 EFT workshop I attended in September 2010. Michele's Background My story should begin with a brief setting the stage of where I come from. I grew up...
The Personal Peace Procedure
To most of us, peace on earth sounds unrealistic. How is it possible to have peace when there's so much war, crime, injustice, violence, accidents, and disasters happening all around us? How can we possibly have peace when people are starving and kids are dying of...
Conflict, Difficult Conversations and Peace
In the midst of a very hard conversation recently, I had the incredible urge to smile and pat myself on the shoulder. I suppressed it – it was just not the right moment. ? Mind if I share why? For the longest time, I was afraid of conflict and getting into arguments....
Do the Inner Work
"Get the inside right. The outside will fall into place." —Eckhart Tolle A client wrote me and from her email, it was clear that she was in a desperate place. She wants a new career – the current one is making her very unhappy. It’s unfulfilling and boring, and she...
Fear of Conflict and Losing Relationships
A few years ago, I lost a beautiful friendship. Mostly because I was too terrified to have a difficult conversation with her. This friend was particularly precious to me. We’d enjoyed 7 years of a growing, beautiful and ever-deepening friendship. We talked almost...
Pain is just a symptom
I’ve had some neck pain in the past few weeks. I felt it quite high up in my neck as I lowered my head forward. I kept trying to release the pain and discomfort there, by feeling for knots or spasms in my neck. It didn’t seem to work. Frustrating! I asked my husband...
Book Recommendations by Savvy Introverts
I host a group of beautiful, smart, caring Introverts on Facebook. We have delightful, deep conversations and share from the heart. I feel very grateful for the people who have gathered there. As you might imagine, most of them love books and libraries! Recently, I...
Why do we behave the way we do?
Have you ever felt frustrated or confused when you’d been walking with a feeling that you couldn’t quite pinpoint, maybe for days or even weeks…. And SUDDENLY the clarity arrived about EXACTLY what emotion that was? Do you remember the relief? I’ve experienced it...
How to get stuff DONE when you’re working from home
I have a coaching business and often my work requires doing activities by myself – like writing articles, updating my website, planning my work flow and programs, scheduling things, creating new content, answering emails, doing other forms of admin like accounting,...
Tall Poppy Syndrome and the Fear of Judgment
This past week I wrote about Tall Poppy Syndrome on my Facebook Page, and it had some surprising reactions. I thought to share my thoughts here too, in case it meant something to you. Are you familiar with "Tall Poppy Syndrome"? It's something like - someone in your...
Tips for Managing Big Change
I wrote this article in 2017 just before we moved to the UK. That was many years ago. We've since become British Citizens and everything worked out well! Yes, there were hard times, and now (I'm updating this in 2024) I love my life here and am grateful for the...
“Conflict!” – What’s your reaction?
I’ve just returned from attending an incredible workshop in CT, presented by my friend Bennie Naude. The workshop taught me how to “Fall in Love with Presenting” and I can’t even begin to describe all the learnings from it. (He's hosting another in November in Cape...
Practice, Practice, Practice (the right strategy) is what makes all the difference…
This morning my valued colleague, Alison Gitelson and I, were brainstorming and preparing for our online conflict workshop next week. Something happened towards the end of our hour, that got me thinking again about the value of practice, practice, practice. Alison and...
Procrastination saved her from awful disappointment
Have you ever found yourself procrastinating on a project that is important to you, and then beat up on yourself for not doing it? With self-talk like “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just start? I’m such a [loser/lost case/procrastinator/fill in your own] and my...
How to Lose your Confidence and Start Hating your Career
Recently I’ve been reminded by three separate people, that staying in a career that requires you to use your weaknesses, or simply not being able to use your strengths, can lead to depression and a serious loss of confidence. The first example (let’s call him David)...
How to use the Power of your Emotions to build Confidence
I had a wonderful conversation with Erin Summ on How to use the power of emotions for Confidence. We specifically talked about this for introverts who tend to shy away from big risks, or stepping into the spotlight. The 3 main points we discussed were: How our...
Three surprising reasons why willpower is ineffective… and what to do instead
less of A few mornings ago I had a deep conversation with an older lady dear to me. They were staying with us for a few days. We started by talking about how she wants to change her behaviour.... she knows she “shouldn't” get angry and shout, and yet, she does. Before...
Out of Fear Into Love
Do the same problems keep cropping up in your life? Have you tried to make changes but then slipped back into old ways of being that keep you stuck and unhappy? If you answered yes to either, listen to today's interview. There will be some answers and helpful tips for...
I just can’t say no!
How many times have you heard yourself say this? And I bet you wish you could say that little word. To those requests that take your time, that you don't really feel like doing but you say 'yes' to anyway. How much do you enjoy those activities you agree to with such...
How to get over feeling that something is wrong with you as an introvert
I've heard this question so often from clients and introverts in online forums. "Why do I feel so different? It feels like something is wrong with me." Here's a simple truth - you ARE different. AND - there's nothing wrong with you! Why do we come to believe...
Procrastination – Just Push Through It!
Have you also heard people say that? They say things like "If you’ve set a goal (or want to be successful), you will HAVE to do some things you don't like. So get over reluctance and just DO IT. Push through the resistance." How do you feel when someone tells you...
The surprising benefits of changing one thing
Have you ever doubted your progress in the past? Let’s say you’re making changes in your close relationships or career and it feels hard. You might think “This is TOO difficult; I’m not making any progress so I’ll go back to the way I used to be!” I want to encourage...
How to know what to say “NO” to
How many times have you said to yourself: “I just don’t get enough time for MY priorities!!” Or “When will all these distractions come to an end so I can do what’s important to me for a change??” If you close your eyes for a moment, what feeling arises in your body...