Blog overview
How EFT and CliftonStrengths can help Sensitive Introvert Business Owners
How can EFT help us as business owners, especially if we know there are emotional issues that may be blocking us? This interview will help! George Kao has been my business coach for the past few years. His authentic and generous marketing and business practices will...
2021 Word of the Year
Last year I wrote an article about choosing my word for 2020. Some friends and colleagues had lovely contributions about how they choose or how the word chooses them. My word for 2020 was ‘Ease’… chosen in January 2020, way before I knew what “the year of the...
Goals in Uncertain Times
"How can I possibly have goals in these uncertain times?" This question has come up in a number of client sessions. I was right there with them and have come to some conclusions. Maybe it helps you if you've been sitting with this question. My own reluctance Usually,...
How to Measure whether EFT works
"EFT does not work. I still have my issue!" This is a cry I’ve heard from many people (including clients) who try EFT for a complex issue. Here’s an example. Susan has had panic attacks for a few years. Then she discovers EFT and tries it herself. She realises she...
World Kindness Day, 13 November 2020
World Kindness Day is celebrated every year on 13 November. And this unbelievably strange year, it also falls on a Friday. Friday 13 November, 2020. I think the Universe has a sense of humour! Kindness is one of my values I love thinking about what words really mean....
Reacting from Emotion rather than from Logic
A few days ago, right in front of my eyes, I saw a perfect example of how our emotional reactions (not logic) lead to our actions – especially in times of stress. We went for our daily walk. It was breezy. Someone close to me had an unexpected sneeze. It was loud and...
How Emotional Baggage Works
Imagine wearing a big backpack. Every time we felt an emotion and ignored, denied, or suppressed it, it’s like putting the emotion in that backpack, and carrying it with us. It’s not truly gone, even though we think we’ve successfully ‘dealt’ with it. We’re...
How to co-ordinate phrases with tapping for effective EFT
A question that comes up often when people start learning about EFT is this: "I attended a short workshop (2-3 hours) and it looked easy when the workshop host lead it. Now I want to tap for my own issue, but I still don’t know how to co-ordinate the phrases with the...
Uncertainty and the Strange New World we Live in
I’ve spoken to many friends, clients and others over the past few months about the massive amounts of uncertainty we’re facing. It seems that for so many of us, big decisions we would have made had it not been for the pandemic, have been put on hold. ...
EFT Borrowing Benefits
If you don’t know what the marvelous method of EFT (tapping) is, start by finding out what it EFT is here. Many people do not know that tapping along with others’ emotional issues, can help reduce their own. It’s called “Borrowing Benefits” with EFT. I’ve heard so...
Tapping on the ‘negative’ thing
“When we tap (EFT), why do we use words about the thing we don’t want, instead of what we DO want? It feels like it reinforces my fear!” This is a great question and I hear it often. When we use EFT tapping, we tune in to a problem we experience while we tap on...
EFT for Pets, aka Surrogate Tapping
Pets play such an amazing role in our lives. They can be a person’s best friend and companion. They’re non-judgmental and forgive us in a flash for an angry word or mean tone of voice. They don’t hold grudges. They shower us with love and are incredibly excited when...
I just want to feel calmer so my brain can work again!
Sometimes we have the idea that we must do hours of tapping for a problem to improve. Recently a client had a session due to severe anxiety. She was frequently waking up with a racing heart, unable to sleep again. Her nervous system was revving so high that she wasn’t...
Grief, Feeling our Feelings and Empathy
A story of sadness and its gifts Saturday afternoon I became aware of deep sadness in me. I saw one or two articles about the death of George Floyd in the US, and purposefully chose not to watch the video. I knew those images would be imprinted in my mind, and they...
Our Challenges are made up of Layers
In the beginning of my practice 14 years ago, I was incredibly excited to help people with my new tool, EFT tapping. Many clients expected a large issue would simply vanish in one single appointment. I was inexperienced and could not yet explain how that was not...
Can EFT Tapping Work for Anxiety?
A number of people in my circle of family, friends, colleagues, clients, and acquaintances suffer from anxiety. I know it intimately myself. I get the question often: “Can EFT really help my anxiety to calm down?” The short answer is yes. Please, do go ahead and try...
34 CliftonStrengths Reactions to COVID-19
My dear friend and CliftonStrengths mentor, Dries Lombaard, has written a brilliant post. He called it "A light-hearted (positive) look at the 34 CliftonStrengths thinking patterns in reaction to COVID-19". I asked him for permission to publish it here. In my...
What’s EFT and why you should know about it
Many hundreds of thousands (if not millions) of people worldwide are using EFT (also known as tapping), to help them manage difficult emotions. Perhaps this is the first time you’re hearing about it. I’ll do my best to explain as briefly as possible why we use it, how...
Why do I have to tap on the “negative” with EFT?
An EFT Tapping Question: Why do I have to tap on the negative things when I use EFT? I get this question very often from clients or readers who have not attended an EFT training course. And I can understand it so well. Everywhere we turn, we hear these thoughts: Watch...
I don’t know what to say when I tap
"I don't know what to say when I tap!" I’ve been an EFT practitioner for 14 years, and hear this from people all the time. Then they search for the perfect EFT tapping script online that will help them to tap for their issue. It may not work, for good reasons. I’d...
Easy Ways to Use EFT in Daily Life
EFT is the most useful tool in my toolbox for so many issues and challenges. I heard about EFT (tapping) in 2005 from my husband, when I told him about my fear of the dentist. I knew immediately it was something I needed to know more about. I’ve now been an accredited...
“I’m terrified of being visible”
If you're a sensitive introvert who fears the spotlight and showing up, yet you know you need to for your work or personal goals - I truly get it. I have so much empathy for that 'visibility fear'. That's exactly where I started my journey too, a number of years ago....
If you’re still in tears over the past
A client question I've heard a number of times over the years: "Why do I have to keep revisiting difficult scenes in my past?" "I’m in a tears every time – is it really helping? Why do I have to keep going back there? Can’t I just not think about it and move on?” I...
Relief for Emotional Overload
If you're a sensitive soul with a nervous system that feels deeply and a heart that wants to help everyone, you might be familiar with this: "There're so many (humans and animals) who are suffering.... I'm only one person...I can't help them all and I'm feeling...
Do you have a “Word” for 2020?
I heard about this concept around 2015, when I was working with a dear mentor in the US, Paul Zelizer. Up to then I was very familiar with choosing goals for the upcoming year — yet just “one word” was new to me. I didn’t get into it for another year or so and the...
All Relationships can be our Teachers and Healers
It’s comical to notice how often we want other people to change. Sometimes we think we know what’s good for the other and we’ll say things like “I want them to do this or that because it will be good for them.” Of course, we do it from a well-meaning place. Sadly, our...
Visibility Will Lead to Loneliness
If you’re a sensitive introvert with a small business, you might know the conundrum… “I want a successful business. BUT. It means I’ll probably need to be more visible (and my coach is telling me that). AND. I don’t want to!“ Does that sound familiar? I am intimately...
Blinks: A Way that I get to Read more Books
I and many of the clients I work with, have the CliftonStrengths of “Learner” and/or “Input”. That means: we love learning, are eternally curious and love gathering information (and books)…. And we want to read allllllll the books about the topics that interest us....
Are relationships really worth the effort?
If there's one thing I'm becoming more and more certain of it's this: Relationships and friendships are important. So, so vital for a full life. In my humble opinion, of course. Here's why. In the past few weeks, dear friends, family and my awesome husband have...
The Bigger Picture
Sometimes life just doesn’t make sense. Sometimes things don’t work out the way we want it to. Sometimes things go unbelievably “wrong”. I hasten to add - this might all feel true when we look at it with our limited human perspective. I sincerely believe that there is...
