Blog overview
Five Things I learned from an Ultrasound
I know I share quite a bit of personal detail from my life. Friends have commented on it. My intention is truly to be of service. Maybe there’s a little parallel in your own life, and perhaps something in here can help you find a direction for your own solution. With...
What to do about Self-Sabotage
I talked a while ago about something we call “self-sabotage” and I mentioned I don’t like the term. My perspective is that we simply haven’t given a voice to all the parts of us that have something to say about a dream or goal. Watch the video here on FB or...
Tapping into Our True Potential: EFT, Strengths, and Self-Discovery
“Learning too soon our limitations, we never learn our powers.” — Mignon McLaughlin If you love books, here’s a funny piece I wrote in the hot summer of 2018, in our tiny hot-as-an-oven flat in London. This story illustrates the point I want to make today: Coming at...
How to use EFT Tapping for the Monday Blues
Have you had the Monday Blues? When I wrote this one Monday morning in the British summer, we were experiencing an intense heatwave. We worked in the vegetable garden for hours over the previous weekend. And unlike in South Africa where we had a wonderful gardener...
Shifting the Furniture on the Titanic: Why Dealing with the Root Cause is Crucial
In this article, I'll talk about why it's so important to find the root cause of our challenges (health, wealth, relationships, and everything else), instead of just dancing on the surface. I talk about using EFT all the time because I so sincerely believe in the...
Dealing with Grief and Loss: An honest conversation
Are you dealing with the loss and subsequent grief of someone precious? We know this place, too. I lost my father after 6 weeks in hospital in November 2022. My dear friend and colleague, Kristine Jensen Smith, lost her dear aunt after a long journey with cancer,...
Tapping for Income and Manifesting Money
Manifesting money is something that gets a lot of attention in the Law of Attraction sphere. If you've been worried about money and finances, you're not alone. Especially in a post-pandemic world where there's a lot of contraction around it, this topic seems even more...
How CliftonStrengths can Help us Understand our Partner
In this article, I explore how knowing our CliftonStrengths has personally helped my husband and me in our relationship. It’s a funny old thing how our close relationships work. If we’re honest, mostly we love that person — and other times it’s closer to eyerolls,...
Triggers, Trauma and Healing
I’m reading “The Body Keeps The Score” by Bessel van der Kolk. It’s an excellent book on how trauma affects the mind, body, and brain — and how to heal. It’s rich in simple explanations of complex concepts, and the components necessary to help our systems heal. (I...
What to do when you don’t know what to tap for
I’ve heard this question so often: “I want to tap for my issues because I know EFT can help. But I don’t know where to start, or what to tap for. It’s a mess in my head.” This question usually comes from someone who has felt the benefits of EFT in a group tapping or...
The science behind our brain’s response to fear and how nature can help
In this article, I’m going to illustrate in a fun way, what happens in our brains when we encounter something that feels scary. I hope you can join me as I take you on a little journey into the woods behind my house. This morning as I sat down to write my newsletter,...
Where do gratitude and forgiveness fit in the healing process?
As you may have read, I’ve been dealing with the loss of my kitty Emma. And as I’ve been writing about this, I’ve seen a surprising number of clients with pieces of grief they’ve not yet fully dealt with. In a conversation with a dear friend, the conversation turned...
Healing Grief with EFT: Emma’s Final Chapter
If you missed the first chapter of our kitty Emma’s journey, you can read it here. A final goodbye A few Saturdays ago, we got a message from Emma’s ‘new’ Dad that she was at the vet with suspected kidney failure. The vet wanted to keep her on a drip for 48 hours. Our...
How we start Avoiding what Hurts, and How we can Heal
Have you noticed how we tend to avoid things that hurt, in our physical body as well as in our emotional world? It’s natural and normal, of course. Who would want to experience pain? Our body and brain are designed to help us avoid it. A good example of how we avoid...
Grief comes in many Forms and in Layers
Grief is one of the most painful emotions to feel… no wonder so many people do their best to avoid feeling it. It can come and go, and it takes as long as it takes to process. It’s not one that we can hurry up. Today I want to let you know through personal experience,...
What does that remind you of?
One of the most valuable books I’ve ever read, among the thousands, is “Evolve your Brain” by Dr Joe Dispenza. He takes us in layman’s terms through the journey from the tiniest brain cell, to how this relates to the rest of our physiology and our beliefs. He takes it...
How to show up consistenly for your business as an introvert
Does your stomach drop just thinking about this? So many of the introverts I work with, and I include myself, face this challenge. It can be hard to keep ‘showing up in the outside world’ when our natural inclination is to want to ‘stay in’! I’ve so many times felt...
Overwhelm and Highly Sensitive People (HSP’s)
I just love synchronicity. I have not written much in the past few weeks because I’ve been dealing with a big, uncomfortable bout of fatigue, coupled with overwhelm. When you’re exhausted, just about everything feels overwhelming. I’m an HSP – and you might be too....
Tips for Working with Big Problems
When we struggle with a big problem, it can feel overwhelming. We often don't know where to start. Here are a few ideas about how to work with those biggies. We don't need to overcome them all in one gulp! We make small steps, one tiny bit at a time. And we absolutely...
Group EFT Tapping for Peace about the War in Ukraine
The war in Ukraine has been a shock to my system, and I'm guessing I'm not the only one. Highly Sensitive People (HSP's) feel the horror even more vividly and the worst is, it feels like there's nothing we can do. We might be in another hemisphere or another country -...
How Guilt Caused a Career Challenge
I’ve heard people say after a challenging or traumatic time: “That’s all in the past now. I’m moving on.” I’ve said it myself. And I’m all for moving on. The trouble comes when parts of our brain (that we don’t have conscious control over) have not actually put it in...
What can I do for Ukraine and its people?
We haven’t owned a TV for the past 5 years and most days I’m incredibly glad for it. That means I’m spared from upsetting news and images. Some people may think I’m living in a little bubble of comfort. I’m not quite sure whether it’s good or bad. I tend to think some...
When a problem feels too big to handle
I start a client journey with a valuable exercise that helps them to see all the different pieces that constitute the issue. I know when I have a problem in my own life, it feels like one large thing. It's hard to see clearly that it’s made up of many smaller...
Shine the Light in the Dark Corners
My husband and I had a discussion over the weekend. We were talking about the patterns we all have that keep repeating over and over. And the emotions we have as a result of those patterns… and even some of the patterns that repeat because we have certain emotions....
Highly Sensitive People and Chronic Pain
I’ve started noticing how often people with chronic pain and anxiety about it, could also fall into the group that we call ‘Highly Sensitive People’ or HSP’s. What is an HSP? 30% of the population are born with a more sensitive nervous system and they’re known as...
Stuck in a State of Anxiety
You would think that a person who uses EFT tapping every day, would zip through life without a care. Or if a problem arrived, they would get over it in 10 minutes. Or maybe that challenges wouldn’t even come near them - because LOA teaches that we attract what we...
Progress with my 2021 Word of the Year
At the start of 2021, I decided my word of the year would be ‘Start’. Even though for me, starting is one of the hardest things in life. In previous years, I often completely forgot that I had a ‘Word of the Year’ to engage with. This can happen for most of us when we...
How to Shine in your Business as a Sensitive Introvert
In the 14 years that I've had my EFT business, it sometimes felt like climbing a mountain all by myself. If you are a small business owner, you might identify? When I was employed as a musician and then programmer, someone else set the goals and direction, and all I...
The Inner Critic
What is the Inner Critic? The Inner Critic is a part of us that can sound like a voice in the head - and it can say pretty mean things to us. It can sound like an outside voice that says things like: You’re stupid Why did you do THAT? Who’s going to listen to you? You...
The Puppy and the Muddy Diamond
This beautiful short story was written by a client. I asked her permission to publish this here. Her pen name is Blossom Everyday. She's been working on her own challenges for a while and has grown so beautifully. I think she's starting to see in the mirrors... Read...