Over the weekend a friend wrote. She explained a hard situation, and several difficult thoughts and emotions around it.

I recommended 2 of my existing videos that could support her immediately before getting together later for a customised EFT session.

Then, this morning I read a chapter in Julia Cameron’s book ‘Living the Artist’s Way’. It’s a beautiful book with short chapters, centered around using writing to ask for guidance from Beyond (whatever the ‘beyond’ is for each of us.)

The chapter I read, was about Julia’s doubts about finding the right words to write about the topic of guidance.

Can you imagine that?! A super successful writer with more than 40 books under the belt still having doubts…

The chapter included how she asked for guidance about these doubts. And how beautiful that her Guidance told her:

“It’s human nature to doubt. A lack of trust is part of the human condition.”

Even for people like her, who have reached beautiful heights.

We don’t like it, even though it’s human

Most certainly, I’ve experienced the doubt, too. Just about every time before I make a video, or start writing an article, or start my newsletter. Every time I host a workshop or even think about offering one. Doubt is my constant companion, too.

And it’s uncomfortable! I’d do anything to not have that feeling, like anyone else… and that’s where procrastination or not talking about my work often comes from. It’s easier to avoid it than to feel and work through it.

As normal humans we doubt: ourselves, what we did or said, what we didn’t do or say, our capabilities, our capacity, our actions, our thoughts, our feelings… We’re human, and doubt is part of our lives.

Sure, we don’t like it. “If only I could eradicate it, life would be so much better”, goes through our minds.

But how comforting could it be if we accept it as normal and then move on to:

“I don’t have to believe those thoughts and I can still take a baby step”?

There’s a kind of liberation in just accepting it does pop up, instead of struggling and fighting against it with such effort. We can soften around it a little and not push back quite so hard.

Support for the discomfort

So… Even though doubt will likely continue to arise for us (it’s normal, remember?), I wanted to create a video for these specific aspects that my friend’s difficulties brought up.

If you’ve ever doubted yourself after a situation or felt embarrassed or ashamed of something you did (or didn’t do), join me to tap down the charge. The link to the video is below the image.

Intention Tapping

I worked here with a newer form of EFT called IEP (Intention Energy Process — Intention Tapping for short) and I’ve been a certified Practitioner of this method since the beginning of 2023.

Intention Tapping has nothing to do with setting a goal or positive thinking. The intention is to release the charge of the emotions and their hold on us. We use a specific phrase (tried and tested thousands of times) for this.

Normally in a session, I’d be there with you to ask how things are changing for you. Of course, that couldn’t happen in this video, so I had to make some assumptions. Follow along, and change my words if they don’t fit your situation.

The parts that have to stay constant are when I say “I release all my emotional attachments to… (and then name your issue, how you feel, what you think)”.

I addressed shame, embarrassment, what I should have or should not have done, I should never have allowed that to happen, and also the fear of what a mistake might cause in the future.

This video is part of a playlist with similar topics, that might also be helpful.

Remember to keep tapping throughout the session, even when I’m talking through a concept. You’ll find the most relief through that — it’s called ‘Continuous Tapping’ or ‘SET’ (Simple Energy Techniques).

What can we use EFT for?

We can use EFT for daily self-care, and also for deeper work to clear out limiting beliefs that hold us back from living our best lives. The latter is slower, deeper work and often requires support from a practitioner.

Resources

Below are a few EFT videos you can tap along with. Think of your own situation regarding the topic I cover, and tap along with me — it’s very effective.

Two more EFT videos about the same topic:

I’ve created many EFT videos over the years as a result of questions, or my own difficulties.

EFT for Disappointment and Self Blame (youtube.com)

I hosted a workshop on EFT for Fear of Failure. One big aspect that came up was the disappointment people feel when they ‘fail’. Disappointment is a form of loss — and very painful to feel. Tap along via the elink above.

What to do when something doesn’t work out as expected (youtube.com)

What to do when something doesn’t go as well as expected and we feel awful afterward?

One option is to keep criticizing ourselves, and feel bad about it. That’s what we usually do. It’s almost the most normal reaction when we feel we should have done better. And, that’s not the only option.

There are 2 others I can think of:

1. Learn and grow from it and move on

2. Feel better about it. But we need something to support us to get out of the difficult feelings — and that’s what a few rounds of EFT can do here.

Tap along!