Quoted from “The Essene Book of Days

small__15233993843Sometimes I feel that my life is a series of trapeze swings.  I’m either hanging on to a trapeze bar swinging along, or for a few moments, I’m hurtling across space in between bars.

Most of the time I’m hanging on for dear life to my trapeze bar of the moment.  It carries me along at a certain steady rate of swing and I have the feeling that I’m in control of my life.  I know most of the right questions and even some of the answers.  But once in a while as I’m merrily swinging along, I look ahead of me into the distance and I see another bar swinging towards me.  It’s empty and I know, in that place in me that knows, that this new trapeze bar has my name on it.  It is my next step, my growth, my aliveness coming to get me.  In my heart-of-hearts I know that for me to grow, I must release my grip on the present, well-known bar to move to the new one.

Each time it happens, I hope and pray that I won’t have to grab the new trapeze bar.  But in my knowing place I realize that I must totally release my grasp on my old bar and for some time I must hurtle across space before I can grab onto the new bar.  Each time I am filled with terror.  It doesn’t matter that in all my previous hurtles across the void of unknowing, I have always made it.  Each time I am afraid I will miss – that I will be crushed on the unseen rocks in the bottomless chasm between the bars.  But I do it anyway.  Perhaps this is the essence of what the mystics call the faith experience.  No guarantees, no net, no insurance policy, but you do it anyway because somehow, to keep hanging onto that old bar is no longer an alternative.  And so for an eternity that can last a microsecond or a thousand lifetimes, I soar across the dark void of “the past is gone, the future is not yet here”.  It’s called transition.  I have come to believe that it is the only place that real change occurs.

I have noticed that in our culture this transition zone is looked upon as a nothing – a no-place between places.  Sure, the old trapeze bar was real and the new one coming towards me, I hope that’s real, too.  But the void in between?  That’s just a scary, confusing, disorienting “nowhere” that must be gotten through as fast and as unconsciously as possible.  What a waste!  I have a sneaking suspicion that the transition zone is the only real thing and that the bars are illusions we dream up to avoid the void where the real change, the real growth, occurs for us.  Whether or not my hunch is true, it remains that the transition zones in our lives are incredibly rich places.  They should be honored – even savored.  Even with all the pain and fear and feelings of being out-of-control that can accompany transitions, they are still the most alive, most growth filled, most passionate, most expansive moments in our lives.

And so, transformation of fear may have nothing to do with making fear go away, but rather with giving ourselves permission to “hang out” in the transition between trapeze bars.  Transforming our need to grab that new bar…any bar…is allowing ourselves to dwell in the only place where change really happens.  It can be terrifying.  It can also be enlightening, in the true sense of the word.  Hurtling through the void – we may just learn how to fly.

– From The Essene Book Of Days


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Liesel Teversham
Liesel Teversham

Liesel helps sensitive introverts to see their sensitivity as a superpower, love their work and practice awesome self-care so they can be energized and make a difference in a meaningful and fulfilling way. She helps them to overcome the fear of being visible, avoiding the spotlight and conflict, being ‘too nice’, perfectionism and procrastination.

She’s the author of “No Problem. The Upside of Saying No”, which is a handbook for those who struggle to say no, are overwhelmed and exhausted.

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  1. Pam Fitros

    Sometimes the exact thing I need to read is brought to my computer screen in what I call “a Poppa God thing.” Liesel, this article of possibilities is just that. I am in between bars.

    This morning I was scared and hopeful at the same time. I’m writing my first E-Course. I’ve let go of all the distractions of alternate routes of the last bar and am in the air with my arms stretched as far forward as I am able to reach.

    Sometimes I have dreams about flying. There is such freedom in those dreams. Such joy. Reading the article reminded me of those dreams. Twirling and soaring and floating in the air. Full of confidence and the anticipation of whatever adventure is ahead.

    Just now, I’ve stopped being afraid. I can do loop-de-loops around the bar coming up and still catch it and use it to propel me forward to the next thing.

    Thank you, Liesel, for bringing us this article. What a difference it makes to remember I’m flying not falling.

  2. Indigo Ocean

    I love the final metaphor you use. I often tell people who ask me how I started my first truly successful business, Aspiratech, that when the rug was pulled out from under me, I realized I could either fall or fly, and that the difference would be made by whether I flapped my wings or threw up my hands.

    Very good reminders, and nice to discover your blog.

    • Liesel Teversham

      Thanks so much for being here, and taking the time to comment! I love your analogy about either “flapping your wings” or “throw up my hands”! Awesome, I’ll remember that and share with clients who go through a tough time, too. Thanks – and just to clarify it’s not my original post – I thought it HAD to be shared, though. I look forward to seeing you back here, thanks again!


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