Do you struggle with the idea of doing something for yourself? Maybe even more than that: do you struggle to give yourself permission to rest? Really truly rest – doing nothing? Messages about Rest Most of us heard messages in childhood about ourselves and about rest, that are not helpful for a ... [ Read More ]
Common Fears about Starting a Business
I love how I keep being delighted and surprised in my work. Take for instance the example of my client Daffodil. (That’s an arbitrary name I gave her for this story – and why not a beautiful flower that shows its lovely self in Spring, the season of renewal? I have had many beautiful souls with ... [ Read More ]
Pressure to Change Quickly…. vs Consistent Small Steps
As a coach for introverts and sensitive people, I'm guessing that if you are one, the "super-hero super-fast" picture to the left might not appeal to you. Introverts are more inclined to go for slow, steady, careful action and not have to show up as super heroes. (If your palms are sweating - ... [ Read More ]
Strong Emotions
Waves of strong emotion can feel very uncomfortable. Most of us are taught to suppress them, hide them, deny them - in case someone thinks we're weak. Many of the clients I see and support to finally start feeling their feelings, have been denying, suppressing, ignoring all that ... [ Read More ]
The Relationship between Action and Results
"You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result.” – Mahatma Gandhi (1869 – 1948), Indian philosopher ✨✨✨ This is something I need to remind my own self of, so often. And I find my clients benefit from this reminder too. Introverts are ... [ Read More ]
Do you know the SIGNs of your Strengths?
We’re taught in so many places that there’s something wrong with us. We get this message from a very early age through parents and other adults. Later on, we learn that we need to improve, develop, grow, stretch …. And while that’s true, we don’t hear the message that there’s already a lot RIGHT ... [ Read More ]
Celebrate your wins!
Me: “How did it go with your xyz goal this past week?” Client: “Oh I’m so excited – I DID it! It’s complete and I’m so relieved!!” Me: “EXCELLENT! Now – how are you going to celebrate?” Client: “Huh? I was supposed to do it - why should I celebrate?!” How often do you react in ... [ Read More ]
Someone might get angry!
Fear of conflict goes deep for many of us, especially for sensitive introverts. Imagine a situation where you did experience conflict. It might have been with a boss, a critical colleague or teacher, a parent, a friend, an intimate partner. Notice that with all of these, at least one other person ... [ Read More ]
Performance Anxiety
Last week I went to an organ recital in Christ Church, Spitalfields. It was the largest organ in the UK for about 100 years. The hour-long performance was a very special experience for me - I was a musician for many years before I made a radical change to computer programming, and then 12 years ... [ Read More ]
Introvert Tips to Thrive during Busy Times
Recently I made the longest and furthest trip ever without my husband, and the first back to South Africa since we moved to London, from South Africa. It was an incredibly packed 2 weeks with business to finish off (banks, mobile contracts, dentists, hairdresser), seeing friends and colleagues, and ... [ Read More ]