“When we tap (EFT), why do we use words about the thing we don’t want, instead of what we DO want? It feels like it reinforces my fear!” This is a great question and I hear it often. When we use EFT tapping, we tune in to a problem we experience while we tap on specific stress-relief points on ... [ Read More ]
EFT for Pets, aka Surrogate Tapping
Pets play such an amazing role in our lives. They can be a person’s best friend and companion. They’re non-judgmental and forgive us in a flash for an angry word or mean tone of voice. They don’t hold grudges. They shower us with love and are incredibly excited when we come home. (I’m not so sure if ... [ Read More ]
I just want to feel calmer so my brain can work again!
Sometimes we have the idea that we must do hours of tapping for a problem to improve. Recently a client had a session due to severe anxiety. She was frequently waking up with a racing heart, unable to sleep again. Her nervous system was revving so high that she wasn’t able to relax and get good ... [ Read More ]
Grief, Feeling our Feelings and Empathy
A story of sadness and its gifts Saturday afternoon I became aware of deep sadness in me. I saw one or two articles about the death of George Floyd in the US. I purposefully chose not to watch the video. I knew those images would be imprinted in my mind and they usually re-visit me just as I'm ... [ Read More ]
Our Challenges are made up of Layers
In the beginning of my practice 14 years ago, I was incredibly excited to help people with my new tool, EFT tapping. Many clients expected a large issue would simply vanish in one single appointment. I was inexperienced and could not yet explain how that was not realistic. I might even have had ... [ Read More ]
Can EFT Tapping Work for Anxiety?
A number of people in my circle of family, friends, colleagues, clients, and acquaintances suffer from anxiety. I know it intimately myself. I get the question often: “Can EFT really help my anxiety to calm down?” The short answer is yes. Please, do go ahead and try it! Here’s the longer, ... [ Read More ]
34 CliftonStrengths Reactions to COVID-19
My dear friend and CliftonStrengths mentor, Dries Lombaard, has written a brilliant post. He called it "A light-hearted (positive) look at the 34 CliftonStrengths thinking patterns in reaction to COVID-19". I asked him for permission to publish it here. In my experience, it's valuable to ... [ Read More ]
What’s EFT and why you should know about it
Many hundreds of thousands (if not millions) of people worldwide are using EFT (also known as tapping), to help them manage difficult emotions. Perhaps this is the first time you’re hearing about it. I’ll do my best to explain as briefly as possible why we use it, how it works, and what to ... [ Read More ]
Why do I have to tap on the “negative” with EFT?
An EFT Tapping Question I get this question very often from clients or readers who have not attended an EFT training course. And I can understand it so well. Everywhere we turn, we hear these thoughts: Watch what you think about because that’s what you’ll get What you focus on, you’ll ... [ Read More ]
I don’t know what to say when I tap
"I don't know what to say when I tap!" I’ve been an EFT practitioner for 14 years, and hear this from people all the time. Then they search for the perfect EFT tapping script online that will help them to tap for their issue. It may not work, for good reasons. I’d love to clear up a few possible ... [ Read More ]