Thrive – using your unique introvert strengths!
I’m going to tell you about my journey in a sec, but let’s check in with you first. Here’s what I know about you, if you landed on this page:
- You’re an introvert
- You might be at a crisis spot in your career or relationship
- You don’t know the way forward, because you have so many conflicting emotions
- You might feel like you can’t trust yourself
- Maybe this crisis has rocked your world to such an extent that you’ve lost your feeling of self-worth
- You would love a boost in your confidence to handle what’s on your plate, and to make decisions that are right for YOU
- You have a big, juicy dream you want to reach… yet you get stopped by your fears (aren’t they so annoying?)
- You procrastinate and even talk yourself out of it
- You’re tired of this and are ready to get down to business… but you’re still scared
- Your confidence might need a boost and you want to see yourself in a positive light… and those voices in your head keep saying “Who do you think you are to reach for THIS dream?”
How did I get here to talk about this?
The short answer – I got here, the long windy way.
I’ve had multiple huge crises in my life. Each one felt catastrophic and like life as I knew it, was ending at the time.
Marriage Twists and Turns
When my first marriage ended after 5.5 years, I was devastated, ashamed and aghast. How did that happen? It was supposed to be forever! I grew up in a good home with firm values – this wasn’t supposed to happen to me.
I married again. When the second marriage was on the rocks, I was besides myself. How could this happen again??
I didn’t take that decision lightly. I realised it was impossible for me to take such a momentous step while living in the same house, so I moved out to have a clear head. To tell the truth, probably right from the moment I moved out, I knew I couldn’t go back. But so many fears and concerns held me from speaking my own truth much sooner. It took me a full 4 months to decide. I can remember the day I had to break the news like yesterday. The agony, the anxiety, the fear that (even though I knew deep in my heart it was right) it was the wrong thing to do. What if I had to live with horrible regret after this?
Thankfully, I’m now married for a third time (some people think I’m crazy!) – very happily for the past 12 years! Our love, and the relationships gets stronger each day. Absolutely, we’ve had our ups and downs, like any normal relationship. Here’s the thing….I don’t think anyone should stay in an unhappy place ‘because they once chose it’. We all have CHOICE and we’re allowed to change direction when there is new information available to us.
And – it’s so important to take care of the unconscious patterns and hurts from the past, so we don’t carry them into our future. Sometimes, all it takes to get a relationship back on track, is to find the old ‘patterns’ we have, that keep making us behave in the same old ineffective way. A relationship crisis doesn’t have to mean it’s over.
Career Twists and Turns
I also have much personal experience with career crises and decisions. I started as a musician, with a degree in music. My 10 year career in music came to an end when I couldn’t bear the environment I was working in, any longer. I was in the Military Band of the SA Army for 5 years and the realization dawned on me that I couldn’t survive their anymore. I hated every minute of the day – but what would I do instead? I needed an income and couldn’t afford another 4 -year degree!
That led to months of searching for an applicable direction and I ended up doing a 4 month computer programming course. Bliss – I found a new job immediately and worked in a fast-paced, stressful environment for another 7 years. I LOVED learning the new technology, and alas… after 6 years, my heart wasn’t in it anymore. I didn’t know it at the time, but some of my strengths were not getting the chance to work on a daily basis.
Another huge change in direction later, and here I am now, in a career I absolutely love and adore for the past 12 years. Where I work with the emotional world of my clients, what stressful events mean(t) to them, patterns they have, wounds from the past that still influence them in a limiting way, choosing a new direction, and working towards that step by step.
Not a day goes by that I’m not grateful for all the meandering it took for me to arrive exactly here, in this spot.
How I can help you
So you see, I’ve experienced those big challenges, and I’ve had big goals. I’ve built a service business, learnt to teach workshops, hosted podcasts and a Telesummit, and present live video’s on Facebook. I’ve had to step WAY out of my comfort zone, and I’m still alive. I know how much courage all this takes, especially when you’re an introvert. We introverts love to stay IN our comfort zone, where we don’t get overwhelmed by the stress and adrenaline.
If you have a big goal and are shivering in your shoes when you think about it, I know what that feels like. And if you’re going through a crisis and just don’t know how to make sense of it all anymore, and how you’ll ever get out of the mess alive, I can take your hand and help you to feel calm, and safe again. I’ve been there, multiple times.
Of course, personal experience is great…. but that’s not all I bring. As an introvert, I don’t like tooting my horn. But here’s a few skills I bring to the table: EFT, PSYCH-K, NLP, Coaching, Quantum-Touch, Reiki, Gallup StrengthsFinder, and a few other bits. I’m an Empath, HSP, who has loads of compassion,empathy and non-judgment. I’ve also had to learn to have strong boundaries, because of my gentle nature, and of course, I teach about that in my work too.
Your Next Step
Nothing changes when we don’t take action, right? So here’s something you can do to take one baby step today.
If you have a big, beautiful dream and don’t know where to start, go here to receive a free 7-day email course to help you get started!
If you’re experiencing a career crisis and you don’t know which way to turn, use the box top right of this page, to receive 5 Simple Tips to Find a Career You LOVE (even if you don’t think it’s possible!)
And, apply for my fabulous, engaged group on Facebook. We have loads of (introvert) fun over there.
I look forward to meet up!